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Moto racer, marathoner, former LDS Bishop, current law practice owner, Harley rider and Las Vegas Rescue Mission volunteer Butch Williams joins the Alph Quorum Show and speaks of the profound lessons taught to him by the mature men in his life. He shares experiences about struggles early in his marriage and how he and his wife partnered up to heal and build a beautiful life together. This humorous, wise, and gentle teacher, a man of pure masculine energy, shares some unforgettable stories, passing along bold and very charming bits of ALPHA wisdom. You’re gonna love this conversation. 🔺
Our guest today was born in Las Vegas on February 2nd. 1966 He’s the youngest of five children. His father worked a variety of jobs when Bush was a kid. His father started the Las Vegas Motocross Club and later the Las Vegas Bicycle Motocross Club. Every Saturday and Sunday, he spent at the motocross and bicycle motocross track with his family organizing and running events.
Butch also raced both BMX and motocross himself. When Butch was about 14 years old. The track was no more feasible to run. His dad started a plumbing company, and Butch began to learn the trade of plumbing, which also worked a variety of other jobs and high school, including being a dishwasher at Marie Calendar’s and driving a delivery truck.
When he was 19 years old, he decided to serve in LDS Mission which had joined the church approximately three years earlier. He served in Alaska and had a wonderful time there. Upon returning home, he attended college at UNLV and then received a Bachelor of Science Degree in Construction Management from Brigham Young University in 1991. While at BYU, he met and married the magnificent Paula Jones from Woodburn, Oregon.
They have six children, five of whom are married. They are the grandparents of ten grandchildren, which attended law school at the MCGEORGE School of Law in Sacramento, California. He graduated in 1994 and returned to Las Vegas with his family in 1997. He started his own law practice. He mostly represents contractors and subcontractors in construction issues. He also practices in the areas of real estate and business law.
Approximately seven years ago, his son in law, Drew Starbuck, graduated law school and came to work with Butch. Mr. Starbucks practices primarily in real estate planning and probate. They own the firm Williams Starbuck.
There is some bone-chilling real-talk in this explicit and uncensored episode. In his most impassioned solo show ever, Alpha Quorum founder Brad Singletary goes OFF about the “caricature” associated with the term “alpha” and turns upside-down and inside-out the notion of the “alpha male” being anything of valuable aspiration. He briefly shares the history of how men have been improperly compared to animals based on their sexual market value alone, and encourages men to dominate only themselves and behave in a way that breathes life INTO and ON TO whatever they touch.
The way he defines alpha behavior in “alpha moments” is a game-changer, both for the worldwide movement of men’s growth, and for the worldwide audience of this show and members of the Alpha Quorum. He shares the background of why he began this entire enterprise and the context behind the use of the word “quorum.”
Brad admits that he is not an Alpha and explains why you aren’t either. “Alpha’s don’t exist; only behavior that produces either good or evil, and motives coming from either love or fear.”
Our guest today is an entrepreneur and inventor with multiple patents. He is the Founder and CEO of COCO TAPS, a Las Vegas company that is the first to ever have been certified as a ZERO-WASTE company. He invented a tap device to turn a raw coconut into a drinkable & resealable container! It has been called the Tesla of coconut water. His product is sold on cruise ships and theme parks in Miami, Jamaica, Puerto Rico, and many other places including over 20 Las Vegas resorts like Aria, Bellagio, Caesar’s Palace, Wynn, Waldorf Astoria, Cosmopolitan Las Vegas, over 60 restaurants, and 40 convenience stores. He was featured on the hit TV shows SHARK TANK and THE PROFIT. He competed in two Ironmans in Hawaii. He plays the ukulele and the piano, and brings unmistakable energy anywhere he goes. Our topic? DISTINCTION.
Brad and Coco Vinny discuss how to have skills with both things and people, living congruent with your values and beliefs, being respected and trusted, presenting yourself with strength and dignity, and being effective in leadership.
The level of wisdom shared in this episode may have never been reached on this show and this will be difficult to ever be out-smarted. Rockford Wright, MD returns to the show to continue the discussion on discernment.
He shares some extremely valuable insights about how a man can make more sense of the ordinary struggles in life through healthy expectations, rational interpretations of triggering stressors, how empathy can shape our judgments, and why listening should be focused on learning and understanding what is being shared. Dr. Wright teaches about habits and understanding what drives behavior, which realizations will help us be certain all of the elements are in place before we attempt to influence change with others or ourselves.
Profoundly helpful and very useful information in this episode. Be sure to check out episode 87 which is part one of this two-episode series.
This one’s a stunner of a show. Rockford “Rocky” Wright, MD, joins Brad and Mike Olsen in a stellar conversation on discernment. Rocky’s contribution to this topic is loaded with genius illustrations and stories that make some profoundly deep concepts about discernment easy to understand. Guaranteed this is an enlightening and edifying experience as he explains the survival benefit of biases and the protective factors associated with judgment.
He details some personal experiences where he learned to see things he had previously not understood in a new way and teaches in PURE ALPHA STYLE what it means to be a fair judge of self and others as a man of discernment. This is Part I of a 2-part series on this topic. Check this one out and stay tuned for an even better second half next week.
Our guest today has been a counselor in a correctional facility for 21 years. Several years before he started, he was an inmate there, serving 14 months for violent crimes as a juvenile. He paid off $33,000 in restitution by working in the kitchen. He didn’t meet his biological father until he was 15. Three weeks later, his stepfather died by suicide. This led him to years of anger and violence. Once he was locked up, he learned how to deal with his emotions from men he didn’t want to disappoint. He read spiritual texts, competed in sports, and learned to meditate. He was the first inmate in this prison to later return and work there, continuing the influence he was shown decades before. He is now very close with his father. He and his wife have a blended family of 8 children and he enjoys weightlifting, mixed martial arts and was recently in an episode of the hit show, Yellowstone.
This episode is special. With our most distinguished guest ever on this podcast, Brad Singletary and Jimmy Durbin interview a man with high distinction, retired Coast Guard Rear Admiral Stephen Mehling. Our topic is discipline and Admiral Mehling presents some surprising elements of discipline that most men surely never consider. His military experience spans nearly 40 years which included worldwide impact as evidenced by a chest full of medals awarded for exceptional leadership in extremely high-level roles. He shares some exciting stories of both courage and compassion from profound experiences beginning in 1976 at the United States Coast Guard Academy. Admiral Mehling teaches in pure Alpha style: with both boldness and gentleness, with humor and high value, with both energy and reverence. This is a remarkable conversation that all men should hear.
Part two of the discussion on Endurance. Taco Mike, Jimmy Durbin, Mike Olsen, and Brad Singletary discuss the following principles from ENDURANCE in the RED9:
How to patiently persevere with fortitude and grit.
How and why men need to seek help wherever they are, but certainly when the going gets tough.
Why sometimes, after all possible effort has been expended and all viable adjustments have been implemented, the right thing to do is to quit the endeavor, the expedition, the relationship or the job in order to preserve life and prevent further harm to self or others.
As always, the guys share very personal stories of darkness and then triumph over difficulties and how their own maturing process has shaped new perspectives about themselves and what is possible and what can be accepted about life’s challenges. Mike O. is confronted about his reluctance to ask for help even though he is always ready to help others, which makes for a very organic tribal experience during the show among these four friends, who Brad calls “the dream team.” 🔺
“This is a million-dollar conversation.” – Taco Mike
Part one of a two-part series. Brad, Taco Mike, Jimmy Durbin, and Mike Olsen discuss one of the principles from the Red9, ENDURANCE. An alpha trains his mind to endure difficulty, he has written goals and adjusts when necessary. This show is improving and is probably our best episode ever.
In this episode, we discuss creating energy through exercise, nutrition, hydration, supplementation, rest and how to be realistic and follow through with these actions to have the healthiest life possible.
Gavin Hillman is a Doctor of Physical Therapy and has been actively engaged in structured and organized physical health for over 25 years. He continues to keep his physical health a priority and regularly takes part in running events, hikes, biking, and scheduled gym time for resistance training.
Tanner Smith is an emergency room Physician’s Assistant and worked the night of the Route91 mass shooting in Las Vegas on October 1, 2017. He and his team treated 200 victims in two hours as a result of the shooting. He has qualified and completed the Boston Marathon 3 times and has a PR in the marathon running in 2 hours and 52 minutes. In his most recent Boston Marathon two months ago, a runner had a cardiac arrest and Tanner performed CPR saving her life, and still ran another 18 miles to finish with a time of 3:12. He enjoys promoting fitness and helping people stay active by coaching people looking to get into running and leading weekly group runs for Life Time Athletic Club.
In some colorful and humorous yet insightful commentary, gangster BFF’s Steve Edwards and Kevin O’Neil continue the discussion on the book “No More Mr. Nice Guy” by Robert Glover. They discuss the societal shifts that happened decades ago to create a generation of men with Nice Guy Syndrome. They outline ways to get away from these self-destructive behaviors which are deceptively (and sometimes unconsciously) cloaked in “nice” behavior which becomes super-unfulfilling forms of manipulation where everyone ends up miserable. They get a little rowdy with their riffing banter and ball-busting and demonstrate through their charming camaraderie what it looks like to have a stimulating friendship with a dude. **These are adult conversations meant for adults only.
If you’re like most dudes, no one taught you how to be a man. Instead, you’ve probably been taught pretty much the opposite. So many personal influences in our lives: our parents, our peers, and society has conditioned us to be obedient rather than strong. We’ve been taught to be a good boy, follow the rules, not be rude and these ideas have been forcibly injected in our heads since we were able to speak. The problem is it doesn’t work and is hardly ever in our best interests. These messages manipulate us into being manageable and compliant, the standards of systems that are about control. Sometimes giving is not right. Sometimes sacrificing is wrong. Sometimes being nice damages us. Today we’re going to discuss the book No more Mr. Nice guy by Robert Glover.
You’ve never seen a person of tremendous influence who didn’t have some sense of control over their energy. The most influential people in your life have carried themselves with unmistakable vitality and positivity. Those high-value qualities are generated in our minds and bodies. An ALPHA is a man of energy. If his mission is to have life, create life in himself and others, and preserve life, he must be focused on the needs of his body and use it as a machine that helps him deliver high-level power into his daily life and share contagious power with those in his influence. How a man manages the care of his physical machine is a predictor of his successes with everything and everyone with which he is involved.
In today’s episode, we discuss the second part of Alpha Reverence in which we talk about the secular versions of spirituality from the book “The Power of Ritual” by Casper ter Kuile. He recommends to take some of the things from religious teachings and use them in your life. We can be spiritual even without religion. Sometimes our most meaningful rituals are ones that we create. Spirituality is a connection to yourself, to a higher power, and to others. Sacred and transcendental experiences don’t ONLY exist in churches or synagogues, temples, or mosques. Anyone can access those experiences, we just have to learn how, with our intentions, to invite that to happen.
The 18th century philosopher Immanuel Kant asked these questions: (1) What can I know? (2) What ought I to do? (3) What may I hope for? (4) What is man? These are the basic questions of philosophy. The root of the word PSYCHOLOGY is psyche, which is Greek for spirit or soul. An evolved man is many things, he is tender and he is tough. He is humble and he is confident. He is grateful for what is and yet still constantly seeking. Today we discuss REVERENCE. This is about deep respect. This is about respect for life, respect for others, and has to do with the connections we can improve with a higher power, with other people, and even to the natural world. Reverence is about RECOGNITION of the purpose of life, the sanctity of life, the significance of life and it includes spirituality but not necessarily traditional religion.
An alpha is engaged. He lives in the moment, recognizing the value of his opportunities and he seizes them like a soldier captures his enemy. He’s a master at influencing the energy around him. He works hard and plays hard, keeping his own emotions and reactions in check and taking care of whatever’s important in the moment. He’s not just a dreamer, but a doer. And he fearlessly puts himself in situations that bring life to himself and those he is associated with. Today we welcome back a man who epitomizes what it means to be an alpha, especially in his ability to live life with no excuses and instead strives to engage himself in every situation with strength. We begin talking ADHD and managing distractions. Justin shares how he has learned to use this condition as a superpower by “making friends with it.” We discuss how to focus on the demands of home life, which include allowing your partner to be “Alpha too.” That means that if they are highly invested in order and cleanliness, you can “take orders” without having your value threatened. Finally, Taco Mike and Justin discuss the value of play, and specifically outdoor adventures with other men as a requirement for lasting friendships and personal fulfillment. 🔺️
EPISODE 75!! The Alpha Quorum Show welcomes unmistakable ALPHA Justin Mackie to discuss resourcefulness. Justin is an entrepreneur, pilot, boy dad, rancher, private aircraft owner, ADV bike boss, 2021 Alpha Quorum Father of the Year, and licensed Financial Advisor and he and Taco Mike drop some straight WISDOM about:
☑ being resourceful as a man
☑ managing the most important resources you have
☑ how the alpha sees money and other forms of wealth
☑ mistakes you could be making financially
☑ gaining better positioning and judgment with money
☑ and a whole lotta more awesome stuff.
Whether you’re a first-year apprentice amateur part-time graveyard shift trash taker outer who is out on FMLA from a ruptured scrotum making corndogs at the mall or a qualified investor, this conversation will be a gift, I promise you.
Brad Singletary and Taco Mike finish the series on Alpha Responsibility with some ultra-valuable lessons about how men can admit wrongs, make amends, accept the things they cannot control and do the next right thing.
We discuss the language of responsibility: examples of words and phrases that men need to be comfortable with in taking ownership of their failures. But first, Taco Mike describes how he became so comfortable with the language of responsibility by first getting right with who he is as a person and learning to be comfortable in his own skin, having an identity that was purely his own and not the template that others told him he should be. He describes one of the unlikely ways he did this: refusing to go along with something he once believed and taught others to do because it no longer made sense for him to continue.
Episode 73 of the Alpha Quorum Show with Taco Mike from TacoMoto. Mike discusses what he’s been up to and drops WISDOM. We discuss how the Alpha accepts responsibility, never plays the role of a victim, and never victimizes others. Host Brad Singletary and Taco Mike call men out for their excuses and share some insights about how to Alpha Up and be a man who accepts responsibility.
This is the final episode of a 6-part series on our review of the book, “King, Warrior, Magician, Lover.” We share some highlights and personal insights about how this information is helping us be better men and what we still need to be working on.
This episode is about living life as a man with the energy of a LOVER.
When we say “the lover” you may think we are talking about romantic and sexual love, but there a lot of different types of love. You love your homies differently than you love your woman. You love your mom differently than you love your kids. The ancient Greeks talked about agape, or non-erotic love, referenced in the Bible as “brotherly love.” They used the term eros to mean sexual love. The romans used amor which means the union of one body and soul to another body and soul. The Latin term libido doesn’t just refer to sexual energy, a general passion and appetite for life, or life energy.
Brad Singletary, Clint Albright, and guests Jim and Jay continue a 6-episode series on our review of the book “King, Warrior, Magician, Lover” by Robert Moore and Douglas Gillette, who describe the difference between ‘boy psychology’ and ‘man psychology’ and give a very effective model of healthy manhood by helping guys rediscover the archetypes of mature masculinity. In this episode we discuss the MAGICIAN.
What is the WARRIOR archetype, expressed in its fullness?
What are some relatable examples of men living this way?
What does it look like when a man is operating from SADIST energy? And relatable examples?
What does the MASOCHIST act like? And relatable examples?
How can a man fully access the WARRIOR energy within himself?
Many people are pretty uncomfortable and uneasy about the “warrior” form of masculine energy. Most of the time, that is because they have only encountered the negative side of that…the abusive shadow side of the warrior in us has victimized far too many people. If a man’s warrior energy is repressed, it just keeps flowing underground and unchecked it erupts into verbal and emotional and physical violence. The archetypes are patterned in us. There is no ignoring it because eventually it surfaces. The key is to understand which of these energies is present and mindfully choose the discipline of the warrior within.
We’re continuing the conversation about this book review and this isn’t so much about the book, but just talking about issues related to men. The questions that we’re going to answer today are what is the King archetype expressed in its fullness? What are some relatable examples of men living this way? What does it look like when a man is operating from tyrant energy? What does the weakling act like? And how can a man fully access the King energy within himself? This segment is about living life as a man with the energy of a King. One special thing about the King archetype is that he embodies all of the other mature masculine energy. He’s also a warrior. He’s also a magician. He’s a lover. This episode is about leadership.
Men are faced with unique challenges and many of our failures come from operating from “boy psychology” instead of the mature and evolved “man psychology”. We often find ourselves asking “what kind of men should we be?” There are many perspectives about healthy masculinity and even more widely-varying ideas of what it means to be an Alpha. Today my three ALPHA guests and I begin a six-episode series on our review of the book “King, Warrior, Magician, Lover” by Robert Moore and Douglas Gillette, who describe the difference between boy psychology and man psychology and give a very effective visual model of healthy manhood and help guys rediscover the archetypes of mature masculinity: the KING, the WARRIOR, the MAGICIAN, and the LOVER.
One in five people have a diagnosable mental health disorder. Someone you love has a mental illness. Today we’re going to discuss common mental health disorders, how they look in everyday life, what causes them, and how men can respond to their own potential illnesses and support others so they can be successful in their treatment.
We interview Matt Marx, LCSW, who is working as a mental health clinician in the Las Vegas area. We describe four common mental health disorders including PTSD, Bipolar Disorder, Major Depression and various forms of anxiety. We teach men how they might recognize the need for further evaluation when the emotions or behaviors the see in themselves or their loved ones are cause for alarm. We discuss medical assessments, how to communicate with a prescriber who may evaluate you for medication, how to deal with loved ones who struggle, and other super helpful tips.
*While we feature professionals on our show, the content is intended informational entertainment purposes only.
Meet the top five finishers in the first-ever Alpha360, a 60-day challenge consisting of difficult daily tasks requiring each man to stretch himself physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually and with their loved ones. Hear about why they were interested in this challenge, what kept them going, and how they learned to Alpha Up and improve their lives in 60 of the final days of the historically-difficult year that was 2020.
All combined, the men in this show are fathers to 24 children. One of these Alphas is a dapper dirt biker and process engineer for Intel, living and raising his two young children in the Pacific Northwest. One is a therapist and life coach who has endured 27 surgeries and has been on forearm crutches for 40 years. The fittest man here is a 56 year-old grumpy drama teacher and actor who adopted all five of his children and found a noticeably different environment in his home as he focused on what was right in his world, worked out with a buddy and read several non-fiction books on “how not to die.”
Why is it so hard to ask for help? In this episode we discuss personal limitations and the bravery involved in seeking outside help.
Talking points in this episode:
How can a man know when he needs outside help?
Our own experiences in therapy and famous men who have been to therapy.
What prevents men from being willing to seek help?
Other topics discussed:
Pushing ego, pride and fear away in order to find the different available resources for help and self improvement.
Finding appropriate help and what to expect in a therapy setting. Also, how to get the most out of your experience.
This is the inspiring story of an Alpha who became that against all odds.
Bill Schuffenhauer spent some of his childhood homeless and was in 17 foster homes because of his mother’s addictions and prostitution. As he became a man, he made some Alpha decisions about who he was going to be and became a three-time Olympian.
He is now a motivational speaker, an advocate for homeless families and coaches corporations and mentors men dealing with depression, addiction and suicidal impulses. This is such a big opportunity to learn from a guy who’s been there and done that, from the despair that led to a suicide attempt, himself, to representing the USA in three Olympic Games and winning the first medal for the US in 46 years in four-man bobsled. Trust me, this will challenge you to reach for the Alpha in you.
Alpha Nick joins the quorum with a super-charged and premier-value message for dudes who wanna level up as an entrepreneur. The change in thinking that will happen in you will boost you toward everything to which your heart is trying to guide you.
This dude’s a straight frigging ALPHA and needs to be heard. Nick lived in Asia for six years and has 10 businesses. He teaches that the ability to start businesses fast and cheap is a worthwhile skill to build for the evolving Alpha entrepreneur. Being able to ask uncommon questions has been a major key to his growing success.
From his home in his flip-flops and board shorts, he operates Find Fakes, a highly-successful international counterfeit-defense company that last year removed over 600,000 online listings for counterfeit products on trademarked items like popular streetwear.
He and his wife created a conversation starter card game for couples that is highly popular on Amazon.com. He explains the method he used to start this business with zero of his own money. His resourcefulness will astound you as he motivates the aspiring business owner to take courageous steps in the direction of who they really are. Dig deep into YOU, but also do the research.
He teaches that men should first truly come to terms with what is important to them and what they want, an absolute prerequisite to executing well as an entrepreneur or otherwise-Alpha out there who is trying to magnify his distinction.
Sometimes we are flat wrong and the things we thought we knew are way off base. Today we’re going to be discussing how to know when you may be wrong and what to do next.
My guest Jimmy Durbin teaches some high-value lessons about why men are so prone to having trouble admitting when they are wrong and outlines the steps he needs to take to grow into that kind of maturity. This is the most valuable message in all of our 61 episodes to date. Whoever you are, this will help you, trust me.
Questions we answer today:
What makes us believe that we are right even though we are headed the wrong direction about something?
What are some indicators that we may be wrong about something?
What would an ALPHA do upon discovering that he is wrong?
How can we approach life with the humility that we may be wrong sometimes?
What about over-apologizing?
Host Brad Singletary interviews his father, Emory, in this Father’s Day 2020 Special.
“Today, I’m interviewing a man that has shaped me more than any other man. He’s been on this planet for three quarters of a century. He’s been married for 56 years. He raised six children professionally. He’s done everything from being an over the road trucker, a commercial fishermen, an international business executive, a hospital business manager, a practice manager for a surgeon, an administrative director of a hospice organization and owner of multiple corporations. He’s volunteered with the Red Cross, the Boy Scouts of America, and he spent decades serving in his faith community and volunteer roles. He graduated from Florida State University, but of course holds honorary doctorate degrees from the school of hard knocks. Our guest today describes what it means to be a real man and how he has grown over 75 years of failures and successes.”
In another super-personal and starkly-informative episode, Brad Singletary discusses his own experience with suicidal thoughts and what he did to save his own life. He describes the impact of suicide in his family and how men can respond when they or someone they know is experiencing suicidal ideation.
Validation. In its simplest form, it’s recognizing your spouse or partner. When you validate her, you see her – you get it. That’s what she wants and needs from you. Today, we’re going to talk about what validation is, how you can provide this need to your partner, and how being a high-value man is the ultimate validation.
Questions to be answered today:
- What is validation, and why do we need to validate our partners?
- What is the ultimate source of validation in a relationship with a woman?
- How and when should I validate my partner?
- Do you know your partner and what kind of validation she needs from you?
For those who may be new to our show and our movement, we introduce the Alpha Quorum philosophy. We also outline the RED9: nine attitudes, actions, and attributes of the ALPHA.
Questions answered in this episode:
- What does it mean to Alpha Up?
- What is the Alpha Quorum about?
- Why does this exist?
- What is the Red9?
Over 50% of marriages end in divorce. Some research indicates that 5 years after divorce, people are no happier than they were in their “unhappy marriage.” While sometimes divorce is the only option, it isn’t *always the only option. Today we will be discussing how separation can, when done with the right approach, save your relationship. We share some insights we have gained from men we have worked with on this, some applicable research on this topic, and some of our own very personal experiences with separation as a means to save a marriage.
Whether your relationship is in trouble or not, you will learn a great about how to Alpha Up with your partner.
In our most deeply-personal episode ever, Brad, Taco Mike, and guest Jimmy Durbin discuss how they all three survived lengthy separations that ultimately helped save their marriages. Learn from these examples about how they were wrong in the first place, how they were wrong throughout the process, how they made it right again and how YOU can get right by recognizing your own part in relationship wrongs, regardless of your current status as a single, married, partnered, separated or divorced person.
In segment two of a two-part series on healthy relationships, we explore the role of commitment and conflict resolution in healthy relationships.
You’re in a relationship that isn’t working or certainly not as well as you’d like. Maybe there isn’t enough of something that you once had, but you don’t know what it is. You feel a growing emptiness and want to do what you can to salvage this thing. While it takes two willing parties to make a relationship work, we introduce some things that help you at least identify what might not be working and how you might make adjustments to have a happier relationship.
We are wired for anger. It is protective. Jordan Peterson says that aggression is the default in our wiring and chemistry. Testosterone is the power hormone but too often we get tricked into believing there is a threat when there is none. Today we’re going to discuss anger and how men can be more aware of what they are feeling and have more control of an emotion that too often diminishes our actual power.
We live in troubled times. If there ever was a time for men to step up and be leaders, it is now. While the coronavirus may not be affecting you and those around you yet, it will. Estimates are that one in 10 Americans will get the virus. You will likely not *die from this illness, they say, but the impact has already begun in terms of anxiety and worry, we see this in the grocery shortage. It is affecting the economy, people are losing their jobs, and your wives and children need your strength. Today we will be discussing how you can be a man of strength when everything is falling apart.