In a ground-breaking move, the Alpha Quorum addresses WOMEN for the first time as they review some of the principles illuminated in the best-selling book, “For Women Only,” by Shaunti Feldhahn.     

We specifically talk about two common complaints of men: 1) that the emotional environment is negative and what he needs is appreciation and 2) the importance of physical touch and sexual fulfillment, specifically.

Women: he needs to be appreciated and his sexual interest in you is not merely a selfish desire for a sensual release but a desire to truly connect with you. If you want to own your man, say “thank you” and affirm him with touch

Men: she needs to feel LOVED, lovable, beautiful and when she feels special with your compliments, she opens herself to you in a way that you may not have encountered before.   Brad describes why women should NOT reluctantly and begrudgingly accommodate him sexually when they don’t want it, but that communication is the key to sexual fulfillment for both partners.  

Taco Mike teaches how men can bring the intimacy to the intimacy and the importance of putting in the work and being attentive throughout the day. Derik explains how men *aren’t pigs* who simply need a biological release, but they want a connection that is based in a desire for emotional connection.   While we try to address our comments to women, this hybrid-style episode will be informative to both women AND men.    **ADULT CONVERSATION, MOST SUITABLE FOR ADULTS. 

As part two of a two-segment episode, we discuss mortality and why we should consider the finite nature of our lives and how this helps men develop an attitude of reverence, which is the openness to all valuable things. 

Derik discusses ‘rock bottom’ and how men can find the gifts in his worst and darkest hours.  We must tell the truth in order to grow. 

Telling the truth requires humility which is an attribute of masculinity. It takes an Alpha to admit wrongs and work to make changes.  Sometimes ‘rock bottom’ is a gift toward discovering and rediscovering manhood.   

Mike says “gratitude is sexy” and Brad teaches how seeing the good in even your most difficult circumstances is a prerequisite for hope.  In order to know that the future is going to work out, we have to realize how things has always worked out.  Even in the midst of self-destruction, gratitude makes all the difference. 

Mike teaches about the Hero’s Journey and how men either choose to be humble or are compelled into humility through hardship.  But there are ‘guides’ all around you. 

Luke Skywalker was reluctant to move forward into his future until he made the decision to start his journey.  Only then did he find a worthy mentor in Yoda.  

Take ownership in the problems of your life, tell the truth of your situation, especially when you have created your own mess. 

Maybe we are like Luke Skywalker, and are forced into growth.  You don’t know every thing bro.  Humble yourself and develop a masculine sense of reverence.  Submit to the process of healing as you become a grown-ass man: an Alpha. 

Mike recounts some special moments where he and his dirt-biking brothers brought some love and service to an orphanage on the most recent of his ‘Taco Tours’ in Baja, Mexico.  

After last weeks episodes on porn, we decide to turn our discussion to reverence: the respect and awe of all valuable things.  We discuss the need for a having a framework for understanding the bigger-picture of life which helps men understand themselves, other people, hardships, and the universe as a whole.  

Whether you are an atheist or a faitheist, this episode will inspire you to tap into universal power and beauty, which ironically includes the need for you to ‘lay down in the dirt’ and be like David, King of Israel, who said he is “a worm, and no man.”    

Talking points include Lieutenant Dan from Forrest Gump, narcissism as the enemy of spiritual growth, when you should just keep on sinning, and the need for a higher power and how to connect to it, with and without traditional religious practices. 

This is part one of a two-part episode which covers Reverence, from The Red 9, the principle characteristics of masculinity as seen by the Alpha Quorum. 

Segment 2 of a two-part episode about porn and compulsive sexual behavior.  We answer the following questions:

When does it become “an addiction”? What is the cycle of compulsive sexuality? What keeps men stuck in it? What do they need to do to get out of it?

Taco Mike and Brad disclose their own struggles with this and other addictions and discuss ways men can get out of this cycle.  We discuss  steps men and young men need to take in order to avoid the pitfall of pornography, which is NOT alpha.  This information is based on decades of personal recovery and professional help for men who are dealing with these issues that diminish true masculinity. Feeling disconnection leads to self-indulgence, then shame and hiding, which returns the addict back to a feeling of isolation. Jeremy describes “warrior chemistry” and how to change one’s mental state from temptation to fighting against the plague of porn and compulsive sexual behavior. Be sure to listen to Episode 036 as segment one to this epic series. 

In what is sure to become our most popular episode to date, we explore the topic of pornography and answer the following questions:

What’s the big deal with porn anyway, it isn’t hurting anyone?
How serious a problem is this?
Why is porn so addictive?
Why does it hurt relationships?
What predisposes men to this problem?

We discuss the neurological and chemical reasons that pornography can be so addictive.  We explore the difference between occasional perusal and addiction and the wiring in the male sexual drive that predisposes men to pornography.  Up to 70% of all men (and 33% of women) have had or will have a problematic relationship with porn in their lifetime.  Taco Mike describes evidences in the ruins of ancient societies about compulsive sexual pursuits.  Brad and Jeremy teach about why there is no safe use of pornography and that it isn’t possible to habitually view pornography without an impact on those around us.  Other topics include rape culture, visual cues of fertility and so much more.  This is segment one of a two part series.  Look for the next episode soon!  

Disclaimer: We recognize that our views could be controversial.  We are using personal experiences and the experiences of men in the recovery environment who have badly damaged their personal peace and the strength and intimacy of relationships.